Know What To Do When Your Best Friend Proposes You

Friendships are one of the most valuable relationships in the world. Pure and unadulterated, we live for lifetime friendships that we develop. We value certain friends to such an extent that we become really close with them. Best friends imply that we are the dearest to them and share everything with them. Suppose, your best friend is of the opposite gender as you are. The problem arises when he or she suddenly proposes to you. We can say that even that is not really a problematic affair but the real problem will arise if you do not feel the same way about your friend. Yet you do not want to lose the valuable friendship that you have developed over the years. You do not want to date them yet want to restore the friendship. Here is what you should do if you find yourself in such a situation:

facing-rejectionFirst of all, you have to be frank with your friend and tell him or her how exactly you feel. My friend had this experience a few years back, she was working in the escort industry, her mind was not in the right place when it happened and she has to say no. It isn’t always a bad thing. Rejection is bad but that does not mean that you will not tell them that you do not consider them more than a friend. You have to know clearly and have to clarify your conscience as to why you are rejecting their proposal. If you are not clear to yourself, you will not be able to explain it to them. If you want to maintain the friendship, make it very clear to them. They should know that you value the friendship and how much it means to you.

Remember to be kind when you are saying “no” to them. You should be gentle and considerate remembering the sensitivity of the situation. You should recommend them onto a professional if they are very lonely, since your friend is being serious and professing their feelings to you, you should not be sarcastic to them or make fun of the issue. Do not bring up this issue in front of a group of friends as it might be embarrassing or even awkward for your friend. He or she might even interpret the matter in such a way that you are making fun of them. Since you are their friend, it is very important for you to have empathy for them. Again, do not be overtly kind to them as they might misinterpret it.

You must also avoid discussions on the topic among a group of friends. Your other friends want to know more about it and prod you. Just change the topic and steer away the conversation.  Save your friend from the awkwardness of the situation because loyalty is the most important characteristic of a friendship.

Since your friend has to face rejection, he or she might need some time to get over you. So give them the necessary space that will allow them to breathe, accept the fact and come to terms with them. If he or she chooses to ignore you after a point of time, sit down with them and talk to them frankly about it. Having discussions with your best friend is very important.

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Finally you have to determine what kind of person you want to date. Also, think about the reason why you did not want to date them. Whether it is because of the lack of chemistry or because you have strictly seen them as a friend, it is very important for you to determine that.

All this is only applicable if you are not interested in your best friend. If you are interested and harbor similar feelings towards him or her, nothing can be better than that. Having your best friend as your partner is next to a dream. Friendship should be the basis of any relationship and you would be lucky to have your best friend as your partner. It might be initially awkward for you to date him or her since you have never seen them in that way. But after going on a few dates, things will be normal. You do not have to try to consciously act like a couple. Just take things naturally. Always remember, the relationship may or may not flourish. But friendship, especially a best friend is not someone we should lose at any cost.


Sticking It Out Long Term

Often we come across couples who have stayed with each other through decades and still are as much in love as their early days. Well, you can also get along with your partner for a long time and make your relationship work like them. Most couples have been through this, as a past working with escort in the Newcastle area, I understand what it is like to really love someone, as I have a lot of detached sexual experiences. Here are the secrets:

  • Your relationship should be driven towards one ulterior motive- that you have to make it work, come what may. In order to achieve this goal, you may have to resist the urge to prove to your partner that you are right, but you have to do it!
  • You have loved your partner as the way they are and have to continue doing so. Do not engage in wishful fantasies and impose demands on him or her as to how they should try to become better or rectify themselves. Give them their space because it is their right.
  • Keep in mind that miscommunication should not be allowed to play the spoilsport in your relationship. Even if you have an argument or quarrel with your partner, remember to give them the benefit of the doubt. Ask them that in spite of having good intentions, why did they act in the particular way that caused the misunderstanding.

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  • Do not interpret your partner’s actions and jump into conclusions. Instead, ask them directly and build such a comfort level with them that they feel free to share the truth with you. Do not assume things without hearing their version of the story.
  • No matter how close your partner is to you, never take them for granted, appreciate their achievements, respect them as individuals as well as admire them. Give them the necessary space that is healthy for a relationship.

Follow these steps and may you live happily ever after!couple-valentines-day-280116-640x457


6 Stages Of A Relationship That Bind The Two Together

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Making new relations is in human nature, and everyone,at some point in his/her life, gets involved in relationships which are different from each other in several ways. Relationships also have stages just like human life cycle. These stages depend on intent of emotions and trust in those relationships. Described below are the main stages of a relationship.

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Romance and admiration stage

This is the initial stage of any relationship when you are attracted toward someone and want to be with that person all the time. You passionately start admiring your lover without noticing any flaws in him/her. In this stage you have to strengthen bond of your relationship so as to assert a mature image for the remaining life. This stage usually lasts for 5-6 months, however if you are using a escort service this stage can last a lot longer due to the company you are given.

The familiarity stage

When both partners in a relationship start knowing each other deeply, the familiarity stage begins. In this stage relationship gets stronger and intensity of communication between partners is at its highest level.

The status stage

In this period of a relationship, there is a chase for status between partners. A couple starts realizing differences and flaws in each other. There are conflicts and disagreements that can even cause a breakup. To survive this stage and build a long term relationship, feeling of sacrifice is needed. You need to leave the relationship intact and let it get mature through time.

The establishment stage

Everyone has some opinions and distinct expectations from his/her partner, so in this stage fine-tuning of a relationship occurs. You try to fit in with your partner leaving behind any special expectations. You try to adjust your behaviors’ in accordance with your partner to gain stability and confidence in your relationship. You have to discover new ways of convincing your partner and learn how to end a fight with mutual understanding and respect.

The confusion stage

Up to this stage a couple spends a lot of time with each other. This long span of time brings doubts along with trust in a relationship. You start seeing your partner as a vital cause for all the lost opportunities, past dates with companions and other sacrifices in the past life. In this stage you start comparing yourself and your partner with other couples. It is just a normal part of relationship and you have to overcome this stage with steady negotiations.

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The maturity stage

When both partners have successfully learned to balance their relationship in spite of discrepancies, the maturity stage arrives. Both partners learn how to love more without hurting each other’s emotions. You start working together and set an example for others, as being in a successful relationship.

These stages and duration may vary from case to case depending on their culture and other contributing factors like respect, logical approach, trust, patience level, etc. Any relationship consists of love, trust and emotions; so it can’t be described in any factual stages. But if you are trapped in any such stage(s), do consult a professional for a better long term relationship.

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