Friendships are one of the most valuable relationships in the world. Pure and unadulterated, we live for lifetime friendships that we develop. We value certain friends to such an extent that we become really close with them. Best friends imply that we are the dearest to them and share everything with them. Suppose, your best friend is of the opposite gender as you are. The problem arises when he or she suddenly proposes to you. We can say that even that is not really a problematic affair but the real problem will arise if you do not feel the same way about your friend. Yet you do not want to lose the valuable friendship that you have developed over the years. You do not want to date them yet want to restore the friendship. Here is what you should do if you find yourself in such a situation:
First of all, you have to be frank with your friend and tell him or her how exactly you feel. My friend had this experience a few years back, she was working in the escort industry, her mind was not in the right place when it happened and she has to say no. It isn’t always a bad thing. Rejection is bad but that does not mean that you will not tell them that you do not consider them more than a friend. You have to know clearly and have to clarify your conscience as to why you are rejecting their proposal. If you are not clear to yourself, you will not be able to explain it to them. If you want to maintain the friendship, make it very clear to them. They should know that you value the friendship and how much it means to you.
Remember to be kind when you are saying “no” to them. You should be gentle and considerate remembering the sensitivity of the situation. You should recommend them onto a professional if they are very lonely, since your friend is being serious and professing their feelings to you, you should not be sarcastic to them or make fun of the issue. Do not bring up this issue in front of a group of friends as it might be embarrassing or even awkward for your friend. He or she might even interpret the matter in such a way that you are making fun of them. Since you are their friend, it is very important for you to have empathy for them. Again, do not be overtly kind to them as they might misinterpret it.
You must also avoid discussions on the topic among a group of friends. Your other friends want to know more about it and prod you. Just change the topic and steer away the conversation. Save your friend from the awkwardness of the situation because loyalty is the most important characteristic of a friendship.
Since your friend has to face rejection, he or she might need some time to get over you. So give them the necessary space that will allow them to breathe, accept the fact and come to terms with them. If he or she chooses to ignore you after a point of time, sit down with them and talk to them frankly about it. Having discussions with your best friend is very important.
Finally you have to determine what kind of person you want to date. Also, think about the reason why you did not want to date them. Whether it is because of the lack of chemistry or because you have strictly seen them as a friend, it is very important for you to determine that.
All this is only applicable if you are not interested in your best friend. If you are interested and harbor similar feelings towards him or her, nothing can be better than that. Having your best friend as your partner is next to a dream. Friendship should be the basis of any relationship and you would be lucky to have your best friend as your partner. It might be initially awkward for you to date him or her since you have never seen them in that way. But after going on a few dates, things will be normal. You do not have to try to consciously act like a couple. Just take things naturally. Always remember, the relationship may or may not flourish. But friendship, especially a best friend is not someone we should lose at any cost.